Engaging in a threesome can be an exhilarating experience, offering a new dimension to intimacy and exploration. However, like any sexual adventure, it demands understanding, preparation, and clear communication & consent. This expert guide to threesomes covers different types of threesomes and essential aspects like using toys and practicing safe sex.

The Traditional Ménage à Trois: Two Females and a Male

• Dynamics: This configuration often caters to heterosexual male fantasies, but it's essential to remember that the pleasure and comfort of all participants are paramount.

• Positions: Explore different positions that allow everyone to be engaged, like one partner performing oral while the other is engaged in penetrative sex.

It's every horny teenage boy's dream. If you Google "threesomes" chances are that your traditional MFF threesome will populate a majority of search results. For heterosexual couples, this is probably the easiest way to dip your toes into the world of less traditional sexual encounters. We've all seen the porn and it's pretty self explanatory. The guy can go back and forth between the women, the guy penetrates one woman while she performs oral sex on the other woman, both women perform oral sex on the man, etc.  

Bisexual Threesomes: Two Men and a Woman

• Dynamics: Both men might engage with each other and the woman, or one man might primarily focus on the woman.

• Positions: Consider positions that facilitate interaction between all parties, such as double penetration or one partner watching while the other two are engaged.

There are two ways to take this one:  a strictly double penetration event with two straight men and a woman OR a bisexual/ bicurious male situation in which there is sexual activity between the men as well as with the woman.  The popular "MMF bisexual stack" which is exactly what it sounds like: man on the bottom penetrating a man in the middle penetrating a woman on top.  

Gay Threesomes: Male, Male, Male

• Dynamics: Depending on individual preferences, the threesome might involve all partners interacting or two partners focusing on one.

• Positions: Explore positions that maximize pleasure, like a daisy chain, where each partner is simultaneously giving and receiving pleasure.

This is where it gets fun. In these situations, everyone is attracted to everyone so there's fun all around. If it's a couple including a third, there may be a 2-on-1 depending on the (sexual) power dynamics. 

Lesbian Threesomes: Female, Female, Female

• Dynamics: Emphasize emotional connectivity and mutual pleasure.

• Positions: Opt for configurations that allow simultaneous oral or manual stimulation or using toys.

Another adult film fan favorite: just a bunch of hot girls having sex with each other. Even if you aren't film star, you'd be hard pressed to find someone who DOESN'T find the intrigue here. This is a good situation to introduce vibrators, dildos, or even strap ons. Everyone wins. 

Transgender Threesomes

• Dynamics: Participants might have varied gender expressions and body configurations. Prioritize open communication and understanding.

• Positions: Focus on what feels good for each individual, acknowledging the diversity of bodies and pleasure points.

Although we'd like to acknowledge that fetishization of a marginalized group of people is a thing that happens. Let's agree that this scenario is a group of participants who are all just attracted to each other. The lines of gender and gender roles in sex are bent (in a good way) and it's a fun and exciting experience. It can be liberating and gender confirming for someone struggling with their gender identity. 

Noteworthy Points

Use of Toys

• Versatility: Toys can add variety and excitement, catering to different preferences and desires.

• Safety: Always clean toys before and after use. If sharing, use condoms on toys and change them when switching between partners.

• Experimentation: From vibrators to strap-ons, there's a vast array of toys suitable for threesomes. Ensure everyone is comfortable with the chosen toys.

Bringing sex toys in can enhance any sexual situation, including threesomes. As long as everyone is on the same page, it can even take pressure off of the odd number of people and make sure everyone reaches orgasm at a relatively even pace and can ensure no one is left out. 

Safe Sex and STD Prevention

• Condoms: Always use condoms for penetrative acts. Change condoms when switching between partners.

• Dental Dams: For oral sex, dental dams can provide a barrier to prevent STD transmission.

• STI Checks: Regularly test for STIs, especially if engaging in sex with multiple partners.

• Lubrication: Using appropriate lube reduces friction and the risk of condom breakage.

Always make sure you stay safe. Do your due diligence by getting tested and try not to get caught up in a moment in which you may disregard safety for pleasure. You can have both!

Clear Communication and Setting Boundaries

• Before: Discuss desires, limits, and potential jealousies. Establish rules and boundaries.

• During: Check in with partners, ensuring everyone is comfortable.

• After: Discuss feelings and any issues that arose. This helps in understanding and fostering closeness.

Set expectations, set boundaries, and stick to them. Everyone will be happier for it, trust me. Be open and honest about what you want and what you expect out of others. 

Consent: The Cornerstone of Any Sexual Activity

Engaging in a threesome, or any sexual activity, demands clear and enthusiastic consent from all parties. It's vital to recognize that consent can be withdrawn at any point, including yours! If it starts to get weird or if someone goes past a boundary, do not feel the need to make excuses. "No" is a complete sentence. If you hear the word no, it is not an invitation to debate and pressure anyone. Respect everyone involved.